The first place we lose the battle is in our own thinking. If you think it’s permanent then it’s permanent. If you think you’ve reached your limits then you have. If you think you’ll never get well then you won’t. You have to change your thinking. You need to see everything that’s holding you back, every obstacle, every limitation as only temporary.
Resiliency begins with adaptability, acceptance, and gratitude.
Excited to get back into my exercise routine tomorrow after this vacation. Lol it really is a lifestyle. Time to try some new squat variations’whoop, whoop!
You always have the potential to improve if you desire to and if someone doesn’t believe in you, maybe you should rethink their role in your life…
Driving down the 101 thinking west coast, best coast!
If you’re not flexible, adaptable and willing to seek growth, you’re going to miss out on much of what life has to offer…
It’s strange, but awesome reflecting and realizing how much I’ve experienced in my life I would never thought would ever happen to me. I’ve realized no matter how much time and emotion you invest in others, there will always be some that will never reciprocate in the way you want. Love doesn’t work like that… It’s extremely difficult, at
times exhausting, to learn how to love without expectation. I’m still trying to figure it out. I suppose society often teaches us to expect great love when we give so much. Can you really even call it true love if you’re only loving someone if they love you in the exact way you expected them to? People are often forget there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. But the more I read and every heart break I’ve endured has taught me I can either give up on love or try to let things develop organically and realize there’s no point in trying to force or control love —- that’s not real love. It’s also changed my perspective on what loving someone really is. People drop “I love you.” so casually and so often I rely on actions to show me how someone truly feels about me/others. Life’s hard and many people are damaged or tainted emotionally and we’re all flawed, so it’s naive and foolish to believe true love is all roses… It’s only when things are difficult when you discover out how much you really care about someone. It’s not easy and it will probably make you cry or yell at some point. You’re going to learn it’s okay to have negative emotions such as anger as long as you can let it go and not let it turn you into someone terrible. Hopefully you become resilient and learn to cope by channeling negative emotions into something positive. I won’t pretend sometimes we may act reckless/drink in excess in the futile attempt to become numb and escape the pain we feel….Old habits die hard, if ever. People make mistakes and so will you. You’re going to find out you are capable of being selfish and mean, but you’re also going to see what it really takes to love someone, how to forgive yourself and others, what your boundaries are, and what real love is. And yes, it may still not work out the way you imagined and you might feel like you’ve sacrificed so much and given everything you have for nothing. I’m sure I can handle anything now after being in such a dark place. We could debate all day whether fate/destiny exist or if we have any free will but honestly, you’re really lucky in this life to find any kindred spirits. That’s just the way it is and you can learn to accept it and continue to seek out the individuals who love you the way you want or sit there miserable.